My Breast Cancer Journey: Shirlee Rufo's Story
Around 55,500 women and 370 men are diagnosed with breast cancer in the UK each year. Shirlee Rufo, team lead for Theatres Recovery at Imperial College Healthcare, shares her experience this Breast Cancer Awareness Month as a reminder for women and men to regularly check their breasts and/or pecs and to seek help if something doesn’t feel right.
When were you diagnosed with breast cancer and what led to your diagnosis?
In 2021, I discovered a lump on my chest, which prompted me to consult my GP. This consultation led to a referral to the breast clinic for diagnostic tests, including a biopsy and mammogram. The results confirmed that I had breast cancer.
While I experienced anxiety upon finding the lump, nothing could have prepared me for the overwhelming fear I felt when the official diagnosis was delivered by the surgeon. Having been a nurse for 33 years, I always believed I would face such a moment with courage. However, as I transitioned to being a patient, my thoughts turned to the things I may have taken for granted or should have done. Facing death suddenly felt so near.
How have your family, friends, or colleagues supported you during your journey?
Enduring the side effects of the treatment was physically and mentally exhausting. I had to remind myself constantly to focus on the ultimate goal, rather than the painful journey. At times, it felt like a never-ending road, with no clear end in sight.
Throughout my journey, my colleagues and friends offered unwavering support — whether through phone calls to check on me, offers to accompany me to treatments, or gestures of kindness such as flowers, gifts, and cards. They were always there to listen and were eager to receive updates on my condition. My family also stood by my side, offering their understanding, while my sisters, though far away, called frequently to provide emotional support. My youngest sister even sent items that catered to a new hobby I picked up during my chemotherapy, which became a welcome distraction.
Shirlee Rufo
"Life is too short — make the most of it, both for yourself and for those you care about and love."
Initially, I was given the time to return to work at a gradual pace. However, due to the prolonged effects of the treatment, I requested and was granted a year of sabbatical leave. Since returning to work in July this year, my colleagues have continued to be supportive, frequently reminding me to prioritise my health.
What advice would you give to someone who is newly diagnosed with breast cancer and feeling overwhelmed?
If I were to offer advice to anyone facing a cancer diagnosis, it would be to begin treatment as early as possible, as this provides hope for a more positive outcome. The side effects of treatment are undeniably challenging, but it is important to accept the help offered to you. There are many support groups that can assist you on this journey — do not endure it alone. Finding small sources of joy can also make a significant difference in helping you cope with the side effects. Despite the difficulties, life remains precious. Each new day is an opportunity to fulfil a purpose uniquely assigned to you by your creator.
Smile more, laugh more often. Life is too short — make the most of it, both for yourself and for those you care about and love.
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